Almost everyone knows an explosive child, one whose frequent, severe fits of temper leave his or her parents standing helpless in their fear, frustration, and guilt. Most of these parents have tried everything - reasoning, behavior modification, therapy, medication - but to no avail. They wonder if their child is deviant or just plain bad. Ross Greene, a distinguished clinician and pioneer in this field, has worked with thousands of explosive children, and he has good news: these kids aren't bad, and neither are their parents.
Screaming, swearing, crying, hitting, kicking, spitting, biting...these are some of the challenging behaviors we see in kids who are having difficulty meeting our expectations. These behaviors often leave parents feeling frustrated, angry, overwhelmed, and desperate for answers. In this fully revised and updated book, Dr. Ross Greene helps you understand why and when your child does these things and how to respond in ways that are nonpunitive, nonadversarial, humane, and effective.
Dr. Greene describes how best to:
- Understand the factors that contribute to challenging episodes.
- Identify the specific situations in which challenging episodes are likely to occur.
- Reduce or eliminate challenging episodes by solving the problems that cause them.
- Solve problems collaboratively (rather than unilaterally) and proactively (rather than reactively).
- Help your child develop the skills to be more flexible, solve problems, and handle frustration more adaptively.
- Reduce hostility and antagonism between you and your child.
With Dr. Greene's practical, expert guidance, you and your child will forge a new relationship based on communication and mutual respect.
" The Explosive Child is a must for the many parents, teachers, and professionals who attempt to guide, teach, and work with difficult, hard-to-manage, and easily frustrated children.... A must-read for our children's sake and ours."--Thomas H. Ollendick
"A truly remarkable book.... Dr. Greene skillfully provides us with both a framework and practical interventions for minimizing struggles with these children and enhancing their development.... What comes across on every page of this wonderful book is a genuine caring and compassion for these youngsters and their a families."--Robert Brooks, Ph.D., author of The Self-Esteem Teacher
"An insightful, sensitive portrayal of children who need help--and how to help them."--Myrna B. Shure
"A user-friendly, practical guide for parents trying to help difficult, explosive children. This book will be of enormous benefit to such children and their families."--Michael Jellinek
"All parents should read this book, especially those with children who are out of control. Ross Greene presents a loving, rational, and research-based approach to dealing with problems that most parents have either felt were their own fault or were unsolvable. I could not recommend this book more highly."--Edward Hallowell, M.D., author of Driven to Distraction
"A must for the many parents, teachers, and professionals who attempt to guide, teach, and work with difficult, hard-to-manage, and easily frustrated children.... A must-read for our children's sake and ours."--Thomas H. Ollendick
Table of Contents:
Preface -- Acknowledgments -- 1. The Waffle Episode -- 2. Kids Do Well If They Can -- 3. Lagging Skills and Unsolved Problems -- 4. Getting Started -- 5. The Truth About Consequences -- 6. The Three Plans -- 7. Plan B -- 8. Trouble in Paradise -- 9. Got Questions? -- 10. Family Matters -- 11. The Dinosaur in the Building -- 12. Better -- Additional Reading -- Index.
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