Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting

Foreword / Jack Canfield -- Introduction: Secrets of Peaceful Parents -- Part 1. Regulating Yourself -- 1. Peaceful Parents Raise Happy Kids -- Your Number One Responsibility as a Parent -- Breaking the Cycle: Healing Your Own Wounds -- How to Manage Your Anger -- How to Stop Yelling at Your Child -- When Your Child Melts Down: How to Keep Your Cool -- You Can Nurture Yourself While Raising Your Child -- Ten Rules to Raise Terrific Kids -- Part 2. Fostering Connection -- 2. The Essential Ingredient for Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids -- Why Connection Is the Secret to Happy Parenting -- Connection as Your Child Grows -- Babies (0-13 Months): Wiring the Brain -- Toddlers (13-36 Months): Building Secure Attachment -- Preschoolers (3-5 Years): Developing Independence -- Elementary Schoolers (6-9 Years): Foundation for the Teen Years -- Connection Basics -- How to Connect More Deeply with Your Child -- How Do You Know When Your Relationship with Your Child Needs Work? -- Connecting with a Difficult Child -- Action Guides -- Your Child's Emotional Bank Account -- What's So Special About Special Time? -- Daily Habits to Strengthen and Sweeten Your Relationship with Your Child -- Use Connection to Get Your Child Out the Door In the Morning -- Use Connection to make Bedtime Easier -- Ten Ways to Become a Brilliant Listener -- But How Do I Get My Child to Listen to Me?! -- When Your Child Just Shuts Down -- When You and Your Child Are Stuck in Negativity -- Part 3. Coaching, not Controlling -- 3. Raising a Child Who Can Manage Himself: Emotion Coaching -- Why Emotion-Coach? -- Emotional Intelligence as Your Child Grows -- Babies (0-13 Months): A Bedrock of Trust -- Toddlers (13-36 Months): Unconditional Love -- Preschoolers (3-5 Years): Empathy -- Elementary Schoolers (6-9 Years): Emotional Self-Awareness -- Emotion Coaching Basics -- How Children Develop Emotional Intelligence -- Empathy, the Foundation of EQ -- Your Child's Emotional Backpack -- Understanding Anger -- Meeting Your Child's Deepest Needs -- EQ Coaching with a Difficult Child -- Action Guides -- Seven Steps to Nurture Emotional Intelligence in Your Child -- Emotion-Coaching Your Child Through a Meltdown -- When Your Child Acts Out but Can't Cry: Building Safety -- Playing with Your Child: Games for Emotional Intelligence -- Additional Resources: Scripts for Sibling Conflicts -- 4. Raising a Child Who Wants to Behave: Dare Not to Discipline -- The Dirty Little Secret About Discipline and Punishment -- Guidance as Your Child Grows -- Babies (0-13 Months): Empathic Redirection -- Toddlers (13-36 Months): Sidestepping Power Struggles -- Preschoolers (3-5 Years): Learning Self-Management -- Elementary Schoolers (6-9 Years): Developing Positive Habits -- Setting Limits with Empathy: The Basics -- The Sweet Spot Between Strict and Permissive -- Should You Spank Your Child? -- Is Yelling the New Spanking? -- Transform Your Time-Outs to Time-Ins -- The Truth About Consequences -- Does Positive Parenting Work with a Difficult Child? -- Action Guides -- How to Set Empathic Limits -- How to Help Kids Who Test the Limits -- Wean Yourself Off Consequences: Twelve Terrific Alternatives -- How to Intervene in the Heat of the Moment -- Empowering Kids to Make Amends with the Three Rs: Reflection, Repair, and Responsibility -- Preventive Maintenance -- What If Your Child Crosses the Line? -- Additional Resources: Scripts -- 5. Raising a Child Who Achieves with Joy and Self-Esteem: Mastery Coaching -- What Is Mastery Coaching? -- Building Mastery as Your Child Grows -- Babies (0-13 Months): The Budding Scientist -- Toddlers (13-36 Months): Do It Myself: Developing Response-Ability -- Preschoolers (3-5 Years): Self-Mastery Through Problem Solving -- Elementary Schoolers (6-9 Years): Exploring Passions -- Mastery Basics -- Encouraging Mastery -- How Kids Develop Resilence -- Giving Constructive Feedback -- How to Avoid Helicopter Parenting -- What If You Have a Child Who Doesn't Develop Mastery Naturally? -- Action Guides -- Create a No-Blame Household -- Developing Responsibility -- Developing Good Judgment -- Homework Without Tears -- Trust Your Child-and Mother Nature -- Afterword -- When to Seek Professional Help -- The Future Is in Your Hands -- Acknowledgments -- Further Reading -- Notes -- Index.